You only have once chance to make a first impression so make it a great one and be prepared. Would you be fashionable late to a job interview? Never! So the same principles should apply when dating. It is understandable that certain unplanned circumstances can occur such as; flat tire, heavy traffic, lost keys etc..... So plan ahead and give yourself an additional lead-way. Always be courteous of your date's time and give them at least 30-60 minutes advance notice of your delay. Be specific and realistic, if you say you're running 15 minutes late, then don't show up 30 minutes later thinking it's acceptable since you gave previous notice. Remember communication is everything, anything can be disregarded; it's not the action that is measured but how you choose to deal with the situation at hand. The key to scoring that second date is by showing great character!
On the other side of the coin is the Fault Finder, in which no matter how much effort you put into your apologies, they will shred you to pieces and keep going and going and going.
I had a reader share his story of a first date experience where he mistakenly showed up at the wrong location for a first date. He was very apologetic and communicated with her all the way through to the intended location; arriving 10 minutes later. His date proceeded to reprimand him for over 20 minutes and refused to let it go, continuously bring it up throughout the evening. Red Flag Alert, if you cannot be compassionate and understanding in this circumstance, well more than likely the real life relationship issues will be dealt with much disappointment and frustration.
So be prepared, forecast ahead of time and plan for unforeseen delays.
Just Keeping it Real!
Well done..Curves.
ReplyDeleteIt happened to me as well. I was late, but had told my date that I was late out of work. I kept talking to her until I got there...about 15 minutes late. She said it was okay, but proceeded to give me attitude. It wasn't a good match, so we ended it and went our separate ways. She displayed the kind of thing that she wouldn't tolerate and acted without class. No one needs that. She called me about a month later. I was nice, but never went out with her again.
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