Standards are vital to dating; they are the foundation to finding your compatible mate. Standards are what you require in a partner based on your emotional, physical and mental needs. They are the sounding board to your initial judgment, hardwiring your gut instincts to alert you of “deal breakers” approaching. Without them all your dating experiences will fall upon disappointment, thus leading into frustration and just giving up on finding love all together.
Before we begin taking an inventory of your required standards let’s not mistake them for expectations, for they are different in nature and can be road blocks if not able to differentiate between the two. Not all expectations are healthy or make common sense and can mirror a person as being unrealistic or too demanding. Standards can develop over time, but they usually remain very consistent. Expectations are different in that they can change over time or even overnight and be individualized. The goal is to enter into a relationship with your ideal standards and with no expectations.
Ok with that said now let’s get down to the nitty gritty. Ask yourself the following questions in determining what you want from your ideal partner:
What are their spiritual beliefs?
What are their political views?
What are their cultural interests?
What is their level of education?
What is their financial stability?
What is their relationship with their family?
Do they have any unhealthy habits?
What are their exercise and fitness goals?
Do they have or want more children?
And the list can go on; it all depends on what is important to you. Just be cautious of setting standards so high that it becomes nearly impossible to find a compatible match. Best way to check your inventory list is by asking yourself, “Are you of equal yolk?” In other words don't expect a Mercedes when your a Yugo!
What are some of your standards in an ideal partner?
Just Keeping it Real!
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